A positive post in facebook that my friend shared

The passage below is actually a status that I saw one of my friends who have posted on his Facebook wall. It serves as a reminder to me that everyone's life is tough in their very own way. Sometimes it may seem like some other people are living a happier life than us, but in reality they suffer as much as we do or even more and we thought our life are miserable.Life isn't tough at times, life is really simple. However, we always like to complicate stuffs to make ourselves suffer.

A random recent situation in my life:One of my friends actually verbally abuse me in a way that he/she didn't even realize. Once in a while(every 2 days) that person take it to the extreme and say bad stuffs about me that I didn't even think or do and others just believe that person that is actually just making things up.I am not sure about the person's intention for saying things to make me feel bad, but I am sure that person is just doing it for his/her low self-esteem to gain other people's approval.
I did feel bad as hell when someone misunderstand me or accusing me of doing something that I didn't even do at the first place. But now I realize the reason that I feel bad is because I have always want others to label me as a good or kind person. And this is something that I need to work on. I have always wanted others to see me as a nice person and this is basically why I suffer in life. (always trying to make good impression in front of others)
But now I wonder what if others don't see me as a kind person? I know I am a kind person and this should matter more than anything else, isn't it?Because everyone's impression about you is going to keep changing as you progress in life.So what if others see you as an evil person even if you are not? They may see a part of you that may look evil, but you have another part of you that is full of compassion and love that they might not be aware of.

This passage (from Facebook)
"For all my friends, whether close or casual, just because. One of the longest post I will ever do, and the most real too. Everyone will go through some hard times at some point. Life isn't easy. Just something to think about.
Did you know the people that are the strongest are usually the most sensitive?Did you know the people who exhibit the most kindness are the first to get mistreated? Did you know the ones who take care of others all the time are usually the ones who need it the most? Did you know the three hardest things to say are I love you, I'm sorry, and help me? Sometimes just because a person looks happy, you have to look past their smile to see how much pain they may be in.
To all my friends who are going through some issues right now--let's start an intention avalanche. We all need positive intentions right now. If I don't see your name, I'll understand. May I ask my friends wherever you might be, to kindly copy and paste this status for one hour to give a moment of support to all of those who have family problems, health struggles, job issues, worries of any kind and just needs to know that someone cares. Do it for all of us, for nobody is immune. I hope to see this on the walls of all my friends just for moral support. I know some will!!! I did it for a friend and you can to. You have to copy and paste this one, NO SHARING.."

I am not sure who have written this passage, but I have felt a lot better after reading this and I am glad that someone actually took his/her time to write this. If you know who is the author of this passage, kindly tell me in the comment section below, so that I can give him/her credit.

Cheers. Have a great evening ahead.=)

Struggling comfort zone.

I am sure everyone have definitely hear about stepping out of our comfort zone to do something we are afraid of to improve ourselves in different areas of our life.
But it sure isn't easy task. And there is usually no one can help us out.
Because ultimately we are the one who is responsible for everything happening in our life.

Feel bad because you got teased or verbally abused by your friends? Leave them and find new friends.
Feel bad beause you are afraid to be yourself in front of others? Be yourself.  Because most often, there is actually no one that care about you that much.
Feel bad because you have not many friends around you? Reach out to more people. Join more social activities.

All of these advice makes sense. But none of them are actually achievable for some people that have some thoughts in their mind that stops them from taking actions according to the advice above and incorporate into their life. I am one of those people.
I am seriously struggling in my life now to remove those mental blocks that suppress my creative expression as a human and being myself.

Sometimes talking and thinking positive things are easy. Just by reading some self help books and watching those related videos seem to lift my energy up a little. But when I am facing with my real challenges in life, everything just goes back to square one.

Anyways, I think I have just got to keep trying.
Life is tough at times. Haihh
But I am learning to see everyday as an opportunity to learn something new and I believe life is going to get better somehow.

Friends change

When I was in my secondary school, I remember I have 3 really good friends. And they are all very caring towards me. And when I get bullied, they just had help me out and I could never forget about all the things they have done for me. I appreciate all of friendships so deeply, but sometimes some friends in our life just won't stay despite our effort in trying to maintain that friendship.

There is this one friend that I could never forget in my life. We always have lunch together and basically just discuss about random things together. Those topics that we talk about are just too much to list it here and we could talk for hours. But, everything changes in only a few months time.
The strong bond we have is gone by now and I still don't know the reason behind this even until today.

That person no longer talks to me and no matter how hard I try to rekindle the relationships, it won't work out anymore. I just wonder to myself what did I do wrong to deserve to be treated that way? I mean I try to talk to that person and the response I get from that person is like talking to a robot. That person don't even want to help me out when I am facing difficulties in my life. My assumption is that person don't feel that I am genuine enough and I am not a friend to keep around.

Some people like to have the mentality : some friends just approach me because they want me to help them to do some stuffs and if they don't need me, they won't find me. And so they leave those friends and label those friends as fake people. I know there are some people that befriend others solely for benefits. But if a person often seeks for your help, it could probably mean that they trust you more than anybody else for you to be involved.

A way to settle this heartbreaking issue is to have a heart to heart talk with your friends.
Tell them that you are not feeling happy lately and see if they care about you.
True friends care about each other.
Even if you have a cough or sore throat, they are always there, even sometimes it is just a text message reminding you to drink more water.
I have experienced friendship like this. But until today, there is only one friend that treated me that way. If you have friends like this, you are sure a damn lucky person! :)

Don't be sad because you have lost your friends, or even your best friends.
There are many people out there that would like to be your friends and care for you.
We just need to reach out more, not sitting in front of computer more.

Losing your friend don't mean the end of the world even if it might feel that way.
Take it as an opportunity for you to search for new companions in your life.

Pay attention closely, some friends that hang out with you all the time might seem like your great friends, but in actual fact, they are just seeking comfort being around with you and they are afraid of being alone. And that's all. They are not genuinely interested in us.
You will know if someone really cares for you. You don't need anyone to teach you that.

It is sad losing your friends or buddy in your life.
But....
It is a sadder feeling to realize you have wasted your time caring about friends that don't even care about you.

Complimenting others

I felt really great complimenting others, because I always believe if we see good in others, we can see good in ourselves too. A lot of times other people are just a reflection of us.

I have been trying to think positive and learn to appreciate life more and more nowadays. And it is really working. The more I appreciate about things in life, the more amazing I feel about life.

Complimenting others is really helping me to be more positive.

I was once someone who doesn't like to compliment others, because I felt bad if they don't accept the compliment well or they just brush it aside or ignoring me totally. (basically giving me a slap on the face)

But now when I compliment others, I just think about how happy they will feel when they receive my compliments. 

And I don't think too much about how they are going to react. Because that's what I can't control.

I have commented on some instagram accounts or blogs about how I really appreciate the users doing their job of making this beautiful world even more beautiful!! 

And it's an awesome feeling to receive a THANK YOU from a stranger that appreciate my compliment.

If there is no response from the person that you are giving your praises, don't worry or be sad. 

Know that you have did something that brightens up other people days! 

And your presence had made a little difference to this world in a positive way!! 

*make sure that you are complimenting others genuinely though!