I always thought that I am a giver in life, I thought that I always help people out, care for others. But not until one day, I realize that I am not really that generous as a person at all. As a matter of fact, I am selfish and not someone that I wish to become in life. I am a taker(someone who wants something from others) more than a giver.
I recently just have a "AHA" moment. lol enlightened? nahh haha just realize that life is all about giving and not wanting anything from others. I have tried helping people out to hear that "thank you" from their mouth to satisfy my need for validation. To be honest, I get more and more tired as I help more people. To seek validations from others through helping them is never going to fulfill anyone's emptiness at heart.
I have noticed many people stop being nice to others because they feel that those people they are nice to are not worthy to be treated that nicely. But from my perspective, the reason behind it is because those people who feel like they are being nice to others want others to treat them the same way.
I understand there needs to be a mutual feeling or treating from both sides for a relationship or friendship to work out. But being nice to others is something more than that for me. I believe treating strangers nicely is something that should be done more often too even though we might not have any relationships or association with them anymore after that day we helped them.
To me, being nice to people is not wanting others to do the same to us, but to brighten up other people's day and let others life be different or more interesting because of our presence.
Some people don't like to give friends/... bday present because they feel it is too pricey or some of them say I dont have much money to do so. They can be spending over hundreds on games/a watch/ or even just a piece of clothing. And they are poor to give a bday present that can cost way less than that?
Maybe for some, they feel like no matter how good they are to others, they would never get the same response from others.
Maybe they have tried giving and they feel it is tired to be doing it without any appreciation from the other party.
But we need to know that if we are genuinely a giver, we would never feel tired. It is when we expect something from others, we feel tired and worn out and not wanting to give anymore.
Anyway, we are all givers and takers at the same time. We can never always be a giver in life, as we are all humans and we need love, care and validations sometimes too.
