Care too much?

Is there a time in your life when you just don't feel like caring about anything?

You may or may not have this kind of experience.

But for me, I am currently experiencing this feeling. 

Sometimes, you care too much, others say that you are annoying and that they don't have enough private space or time.
Sometimes, you care too less, and others say that you are being cold towards them.

I think that only overthinkers can relate to how I am feeling now.
I feel like I care too much about small little matters in life, especially relationships with people.
The more you expect from the people you care, the more disappointed you feel. Haizz still learning to be more care-free. (Life is all about learning to become better and better eh)

Hmm.. I always do my very best in being positive in this blog in the hopes of spreading positivity. However, I want to be genuine as well. And I have my ups and down like everyone else too.
We can be so happy at one moment and suddenly we are sad just a few minutes later. And we can be so sad at one moment and just few seconds later we are laughing our ass off!!
I am not feeling really great now. But who knows, I may be feeling happy very soon? XD

Random:
Let it go. Let it go. (Song from frozen)
" Few hours ago, I heard one cute little girl singing this in the elevator, awww haha I wish I can sing together with her, but nah not going to ruin her solo performance.LOL"
Maybe I should take her advice 'let it go, let it go".
I think she is using that song to cheer me up.Lol think too much! Anyway such an innocent, carefree and cheerful little kid, I hope that she will continue to be that fabulous. :) 

Talking to phone

The other day when I was having my meal in some restaurant/food court, I see that many people kept using their phones and have zero interactions with their friends or family members. As I am sensitive person, I feel a bit sad about this. I dont know why, but I think that many people have come to a point of hiding themselves behind the phone.

Whenever there is an awkward situation where no one starts to initiate a conversation, everyone will just act busy and get their phones out and keep scrolling Facebook, instagram like as if there is something very important to deal with.  This is what I experienced myself and yeah I admit that I sometimes will do the above. But I am trying my best to fight the temptation of using the phone.

I personally feel that many people had come to a point that they feel that "talking" to their phone is way better than talking to people in real life. They won't get hurt that easily. They can have ample time to think of what to reply after receiving message.
These benefits of online/typing communication seem to be more than verbal communication.
But anyway I still think that verbal communication is a lot more fun.
It's different telling a joke in text and in real life. When you see your friends smile because of a funny joke in real life, it is a far greater feeling than seeing an emoticon that imitates a person's smiling face in messages.

Would you prefer these ";) / XD/ :D" or a genuine laugh or smile from a real person?

Many people have treated their phone, ipads like the most important thing in their life and something they can't live without. And I believe some of you guys might heard before some of your friends saying that they can't live without their phone even if it is just for a day. (We need to train ourselves not to be dependent on anything, but to feel sufficient with just ourselves.)

I am not saying that using phone during an outing is a bad thing. But hopefully we don't use it so much to the extent that the other person just don't feel appreciated when they are spending their time hanging out with us.

Oops, I think I am ranting in this post. Forgive me, hope I made a little sense though. Haha

One last thing:
I am just thinking,
Wouldn't it be great if we can talk to each other face to face instead of typing messages and just looking at the screen and assume the other person emotions by looking at the emoticons?

Wouldn't it be great that everyone enjoys each other's company without using the phone?
I believe that if there is no existence of phone during an outing, it will definitely be a more memorable experience where everyone gets to talk to each other!
I don't know, just a random thought.
Again, I may be right and may be wrong.
Or maybe there is nothing we can do about it? Because "talking" to the phone seems to be a new norm nowadays. :/

I appreciate good people. =D

The purpose of me writing this post is because I would like to share some good things that I have encountered recently. These situations probably does not mean anything, but I feel the need to share it out. (To let more people know that this world that we live in is full of nice people.)

I don't know about you or others.I just keep seeing good things happen around me, because I choose to see things in whole new perspective or at least I try to appreciate even the small little things in life. (I feel like I have said this for a thousand times(in previous blog posts))

#1
Nowadays I don't really get sufficient sleeping hours every night, because of the busy chores that I have got. That's what I get for being a procrastinator. I have been slacking for quite some time since the beginning of my semester. Time to get busy!
But the main point is I get really blur when I dont have enough time to sleep.
And that's basically the root cause of an embarrassing thing that happened today.
I was so blur that after I have packed my food in my container, I didn't close it tightly and guess what happen when I lift my container up by the handle. A TOTAL DISASTER!!
(The awkwardness when everyone look at you.) =X

The person selling the food was not mad at me at all. Judging from his facial expression, I think he just feel that the food is being wasted. But the thing I am surprised is that he allowed me to take the same dish again for FREE. How can someone that good exist?!!
(The dish ain't cheap : a huge drumstick, vege and some big sambal prawns.)  
I feel so bad wasting the food and cause the foodseller to lose some profit)
Haihz there is nothing I can do to reverse what had happened. But I am not going to do the same mistake again, if not I will......

#2
The other day I saw a girl walking down the stairs carrying a lot of stuffs with only two hands. But at that time I thought she had like 5 hands, because she really carried many things just by herself.
I offered her my help and help her to carry her things all the way back to her house. And she said thank you and even give me a chocolate bar in return. She also introduced me to her friends and asked me to find her whenever I need help next time. And she did really helped me after a few days later.=D

#3
A lot of my friends complain about a cafe/restaurant being over-priced. I do agree sometimes they may charge a little expensive when it comes to portion wise. It is actually self-service, so you can take as much as you want according to your own preference. But many times the price is really not consistent.
Anyway, I still support them. And there is this one time, they charged me so cheap!!!! It's only rm5 for 3mees combined together. Even if it is only for once, I learn to appreciate it. =D

#4
I have tried to ask people for directions to go to some places, because I have poor sense of direction. And so far, I have asked approximately 30 people to direct me, and there is not one single person that is not helpful.

#5
It was raining so heavily that day. I stood there waiting for the rain to stop, because I don't want to waste my money on a taxi and my house is only a few miles away.  But it just wouldn't stop after like half an hour.
At that time, I was so desperate for help that I just asked a stranger beside me. Do you live here ? Haha and she looked at me weirdly (she might be wondering why is this guy asking a random question like this.)
And so I added, ohh because you see my house is just around here and I was thinking if you want to share a taxi back together if you are living nearby.
And she said no, she is waiting for her friends to pick her up to go other places to have dinner.
But after I decided to take the taxi back home, the taxi driver refuse to give me a ride. @@
How can I get back home now?
Luckily, that girl offered me a ride. She said she can just ask her friend to drop me home.
And I even made the "cushion" of the car wet by the time I went in the car. And they just kept saying okay. They seem like really nice people.
I just kept saying thank you and they said nah, it's not a big deal.:')

Some may say that the world has a a lot of cruel/violent/evil individuals. But I don't think so.
They may have been hurted before in the past when they try to be nice.
So appreciate others when they are being nice to us!! Don't take it for granted.
Smile to others, say THANK YOU or maybe just give a small gift as a sign of appreciation. That's the least we can do to show others that we appreciate their help. =)

Life is good. =D

Complicating small matters. =X

I argued a little with my friend today, because of some small matters. I would say it is an argument, because both of us are not agreeing with each other with certain issues. I am only going to share just a little part of the entire scenario.

Today my friend is having some usual conversation with me like how we usually did through text messages/whatsapp.
After I didn't reply for about 40 minutes (because I was basically busy with my stuffs that I didn't check my phone), I receive messages that totally messed up my mood.

"Why does everyone doesn't know the etiquette of replying a message?"
"GOSH!! where are the smart people with smartphone nowadays"

I felt really angry and sad at the same time reading messages like these. But I am glad that I choose to not use harsh words to reply and continue to talk normally. If not, some bad things are going to happen!

I am feeling angry as I am not someone that can be with my phone 24/7 and I did not ignore the messages on purpose after all. And it is a sadder feeling to get harsh messages from your closed ones. I know sometimes people think that they are close to you, then they can say whatever they want or do whatever they want. But no matter how close a relationship is, I believe it is still important to take care of other people's feeling despite just our own.
(People that are usually closer to you hurt you the most without realization. So true.)

I am not saying in the above scenario who is wrong or who is right.
But I believe there is a better way to express ourselves without being harsh towards others.
I know it is frustrating to send people messages and not getting any response.

But is criticizing/scolding/teasing/hurting others necessary? How can it help with the situation at all?
There is always a better way to say it by expressing ourselves fully but at the same time taking other people's feeling into consideration.
(Eg. I am really frustrated not getting any response from you, can you reply after u see the message?)  or even better ring the person up right away to talk about the stuffs if it is really urgent/important?

Why criticize/scold/tease/hurt others when there is better ways to convey the messages to the other person? I don't get it.

I don't think anyone likes to be yelled or treated poorly! I know sometimes friends may tease each other once in a while, that's fine. But boundaries should be set and not crossed.
No one in this world likes to be teased frequently, not being appreciated and respected.

Anyway there may also be a possibility that I am the sensitive one and my friend probably doesn't mean anything. Who knows? haha simple stuffs yet I make it complicated.

Live life "dangerously"

Living life dangerously does not mean to do all those crazy stuffs like bungee jump, scream without reason in the crowd or doing things that are beyond your ability.

For me, I think that living life dangerously is about taking risk and not worrying too excessively about how things will turn out. I would say I did something that is considered dangerous to me one or week ago.
FYI, my hair looks like a mushroom at that time, so I am ready to go get my hair trimmed/cut.
What is so dangerous just getting a haircut?
Because this time round, my friend is going to give me haircut! And I have no idea how skilled he is.

I was actually quite nervous imagining all worst scenarios.
Despite thinking too much about what may happen, I went for it.
And I couldn't feel much more happier.
Why?
Because previously, I had actually went for 10 different barber shop to get a haircut, but they just wouldn't allow me to have the haircut I want.
But my friend followed my request that day and did what I wanted for my hair.

For me, I think he really gave me a professional haircut.
He gave himself a mark of 7 out of 10 for the end result of my hair, but I score him 8.5 out of 10!

At first, I didn't like it too much, because I am not used to having my hair being styled that way.
I was a little bit nervous going out for the fear of being judged because of my new hairstyle for the first few days.
And yeahh, some of my friends don't really like it and give some bad comments about it.
But there is still one or two friends that compliment my new hairstyle.

I slowly realize that it doesn't really matter anymore.
At the end of the day, people are going to give many different kinds of comments, good or bad. We just can't stop it. Let others express their opinions however they want because everyone is allowed to have their own opinion. And we have no control over what they want to say.

All we can do is to control how we react to the comments from others.  

Nasty comments hurt really bad, but imagine if you can learn how to deal with it, how wonderful your life is going to be ...

Okay back to topic, living life dangerously. How can we do that?
You can maybe try doing these few things below:

• Go for a swim and be comfortable with your own body. 
• Trying out clothes that you like although others say you look odd.
• Grab every opportunities to face your fears. (fear of darkness, height, animals/ anything)
• Go shopping & don't get affected by the shop assistants that may stare at you right in the eyes.
• ___ fill in the blank. You get the idea. 

Just do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable at first will do. (obviously only try something that will benefit you in the long run) (Not something like getting a tattoo, piercing, smoking etc!)

Go out there and live your life DANGEROUSLY.
It is fun to live life "dangerously" once in a while. And it will most definitely make you feel alive again!!

Happiness, a choice

I felt that it is almost impossible for me to be happy the entire time. My mind just won't cooperate with me to help me feel more awesome. I guess my mind still have some negative and self-limiting beliefs that need to be removed. haha stubborn mind..

Anyway, I have spent some time searching a lot of videos on the Internet to find ways to be happy, but then I realize there is actually no fixed way to feel happy. And we can be as creative as we want to feel happy.

You can draped yourself in your blanket and imagine that you are Maleficient and speak in a spooky tone. (This is what I do) I know this is super silly, but I don't care as this makes me happy.
Seriously, don't let anyone tell you that you can't do this or that to be happy.
Others may say that you are silly. But who cares?
You do what you want as long as you are not disturbing or affecting others in a bad way.
(It is your life after all, not theirs. Live it the way you like!)

CREATE YOUR OWN WAY TO BE HAPPY.

We decide when we want to be happy. 
You can start feeling happy the moment when you wake up from your bed every morning.
Being grateful about small things in life helps a lot!
We can also decide to be happy right now at this moment regardless of the circumstances that we have. Even at times when we feel like it is impossible to find things that make us feel happy, there is definitely going to be something that is worth feeling happy about.
Being alive is one of the best reasons to feel happy as life is a gift itself.
(I know it  sounds a little cliche)

It is inevitable that some life situations will come and mess up with your mood once in a while.
But life would be too boring to keep experiencing the same feeling over and over again.
Don't you feel riding a roller coaster(ups and downs) would be more fun than sitting in a train(same feeling)?

Random event: My dad and I were eating our dinner at a hawker store the other day. And we notice that the waiter looks "abnormally" happy. HAHA I asked my dad how can someone be so happy just by taking orders and serving people drinks. When the waiter come and get our food order, my dad asked her "why are you so happy". And she just smile and said: Happy or not, the day will still pass. Why not choose to be happy?

This post may sound common sense or very simplistic. But I hope that this post can at least be a reminder to people that happiness is a choice and it is not hard to feel happy.

Smile and be happy, okay?

Selfish?

I was once someone who is really generous and helpful towards others until one day I decided that I need to stop being a people-pleaser and do whatever they tell me to do.
I was always the one who finish my homework and borrow others to copy before handing in.
What my friends need to do is just to ask me for help, and they shall receive.
I wouldn't say no to my friends, as I am afraid that rejecting others may cause them to dislike me.

As time pass by slowly, I realize that I am desperately seeking approval from others and helping them at the same time. No matter how crazy their needs are, I will always be the one who nod my head and help as much as I can. Even though sometimes when I feel exhausted or not appreciated, I still continue to help.

Recalling back my secondary school years, there are some people that just went too over.
That time, one of my friends asked me to borrow him my homework, and I said no. And guess what he did? He snatch the book from me and almost teared the book into half. I was very angry at that moment, but he was pretending that I was joking.  He didn't know he had already crossed the line. Maybe because I had borrowed him my homework for about 6 months continuously without saying no for even once? I did scold that person out loud, but he didn't even take me seriously. And that's when I realize being too nice of a person is not a good choice in some situations.

What I experienced few years ago was not really pleasant, but those experiences had made me realize that being just nice is good enough. Being too nice/too generous to others, and then you need to prepare to suffer the consequences. At least this is the lesson that I learnt from my own life experiences.

From that incident earlier, I have actually learnt to say no to some people who are in need of my help. (*usually things that are beyond my capabilities or when the other person is demanding too much)

Sometimes others may think that someone is selfish, but for me, I don't think we can really label anyone as selfish.(apply to certain life scenarios)

E.G.
A and B were given a report to do from their lecturers.
A spent about 10 hours during the weekends to finish the report, while B spent the weekends doing nothing. Just one day before due date, B asked A to send him the report, since B say to A that he doesn't have time to finish it and he doesn't know how to do.

So if you were A, will you send B the report?
If A didn't send the report, is he selfish?
If you would say A is selfish, then don't you think B is selfish too?

B did not put a single ounce of effort into doing the report and expect A to send the entire report for him to copy. B is selfish, because he only thinks about himself and he didn't really consider all the free time A has sacrificed to do the report. It's rather unfair to A. If you were A, how would you feel?
And I strongly believe that if A did send the report to B this time, next time when there is more assignments to do,B definitely is going to ask for more reports from A.
So I recommend A not to send B the report.

A might think that B is selfish.
B might think that A is selfish.

This is just my personal opinion. You can agree or disagree with what I say. =)
How about you? Who do you think is selfish in the situation given above?

I am not saying that we should be selfish. But set your boundaries and never let anyone cross it!!

Say yes all the time is not going to make others like you and say no once in a while doesn't mean that you are selfish!
Its when you know how to stand up for yourselves, you make yourself more likeable and respected by others.

Cheers. =D

Judging..

It took me a long time to start changing my perspective towards a lot of things in my life.

Back when I was in my secondary school, I was really depressed, trying to figure some ways to not get affected by other people's judgement. But then now I realize a simple quick shift in thought can change moods in an instant. But sometimes it is easier said than done right? yeah I agree! =)

Few years ago: 

I have this victim mentality thinking that I was treated badly by others. 

I was wondering why they have treated me in such unpleasant ways. 

It causes me to question my attitudes/ behaviors. 

Did I did anything wrong to be treated in this way? Maybe yes, maybe no. 

But then none of this really matters.No matter how kind of a person you are, there is still going to be some haters. LOL haters back off!! (like how mirandasings always say) 

When people verbally abuse me, I will used to think that it was my fault. 

However, I am glad that I have changed my way of thinking now. 

Now when people attack me with their weapon- hurtful words/criticism, I learn to not take it personally. I realize that whenever I personalized all those hurtful things, I feel bad about myself. 

It's when I start to see that I am not what the others say or see, I am not affected by those bad comments. 

Sometimes what others say might not be the truth, so don't believe it right away. 

(although we usually just believe it like in a few seconds and feel bad about it) 

Take for example a skinny person and a muscular person and a fat person.

Some people will often criticize the skinny person for having a small frame. 

And some other comments:

Why can't you get fatter?

Why do you eat so less? 

You should be fatter, because you are a man.

You won't be fat no matter how you eat. 

You should gain more weight. Eat more!

You should not wear singlets, your arms are too thin. etc.

But when they get fat, some comments:

Why can't you exercise more? 

Why can't you get thinner?

Why don't reduce your belly fat by eating lesser?

You look better when you are thin.

You look gross with your big belly.

Then they get muscular, some comments:

And some other comments: 

You have chicken legs. 

Your muscles look bigger on this side than the other.

You eat steroids?

You look better when you are thin.

Too muscular. Eww..

My point here is: No matter who we are and what we do, people judge us. Or maybe it's just ourselves who are judging ourselves?

I also was no longer that depressed after I learned to see that sometimes people might say things that they don't really mean to hurt you. And if they really meant to hurt you, they probably have been hurt before and now they are doing it to others. 

Let's be more compassionate and loving. 

If people judge us and say bad things about us, we can learn to put ourselves in their shoes and see what's the motive behind what they say. 

They use hurtful words to hurt us, we use LOVE(strongest weapon on Earth) to fight back!!! 

A positive post in facebook that my friend shared

The passage below is actually a status that I saw one of my friends who have posted on his Facebook wall. It serves as a reminder to me that everyone's life is tough in their very own way. Sometimes it may seem like some other people are living a happier life than us, but in reality they suffer as much as we do or even more and we thought our life are miserable.Life isn't tough at times, life is really simple. However, we always like to complicate stuffs to make ourselves suffer.

A random recent situation in my life:One of my friends actually verbally abuse me in a way that he/she didn't even realize. Once in a while(every 2 days) that person take it to the extreme and say bad stuffs about me that I didn't even think or do and others just believe that person that is actually just making things up.I am not sure about the person's intention for saying things to make me feel bad, but I am sure that person is just doing it for his/her low self-esteem to gain other people's approval.
I did feel bad as hell when someone misunderstand me or accusing me of doing something that I didn't even do at the first place. But now I realize the reason that I feel bad is because I have always want others to label me as a good or kind person. And this is something that I need to work on. I have always wanted others to see me as a nice person and this is basically why I suffer in life. (always trying to make good impression in front of others)
But now I wonder what if others don't see me as a kind person? I know I am a kind person and this should matter more than anything else, isn't it?Because everyone's impression about you is going to keep changing as you progress in life.So what if others see you as an evil person even if you are not? They may see a part of you that may look evil, but you have another part of you that is full of compassion and love that they might not be aware of.

This passage (from Facebook)
"For all my friends, whether close or casual, just because. One of the longest post I will ever do, and the most real too. Everyone will go through some hard times at some point. Life isn't easy. Just something to think about.
Did you know the people that are the strongest are usually the most sensitive?Did you know the people who exhibit the most kindness are the first to get mistreated? Did you know the ones who take care of others all the time are usually the ones who need it the most? Did you know the three hardest things to say are I love you, I'm sorry, and help me? Sometimes just because a person looks happy, you have to look past their smile to see how much pain they may be in.
To all my friends who are going through some issues right now--let's start an intention avalanche. We all need positive intentions right now. If I don't see your name, I'll understand. May I ask my friends wherever you might be, to kindly copy and paste this status for one hour to give a moment of support to all of those who have family problems, health struggles, job issues, worries of any kind and just needs to know that someone cares. Do it for all of us, for nobody is immune. I hope to see this on the walls of all my friends just for moral support. I know some will!!! I did it for a friend and you can to. You have to copy and paste this one, NO SHARING.."

I am not sure who have written this passage, but I have felt a lot better after reading this and I am glad that someone actually took his/her time to write this. If you know who is the author of this passage, kindly tell me in the comment section below, so that I can give him/her credit.

Cheers. Have a great evening ahead.=)

Struggling comfort zone.

I am sure everyone have definitely hear about stepping out of our comfort zone to do something we are afraid of to improve ourselves in different areas of our life.
But it sure isn't easy task. And there is usually no one can help us out.
Because ultimately we are the one who is responsible for everything happening in our life.

Feel bad because you got teased or verbally abused by your friends? Leave them and find new friends.
Feel bad beause you are afraid to be yourself in front of others? Be yourself.  Because most often, there is actually no one that care about you that much.
Feel bad because you have not many friends around you? Reach out to more people. Join more social activities.

All of these advice makes sense. But none of them are actually achievable for some people that have some thoughts in their mind that stops them from taking actions according to the advice above and incorporate into their life. I am one of those people.
I am seriously struggling in my life now to remove those mental blocks that suppress my creative expression as a human and being myself.

Sometimes talking and thinking positive things are easy. Just by reading some self help books and watching those related videos seem to lift my energy up a little. But when I am facing with my real challenges in life, everything just goes back to square one.

Anyways, I think I have just got to keep trying.
Life is tough at times. Haihh
But I am learning to see everyday as an opportunity to learn something new and I believe life is going to get better somehow.

Friends change

When I was in my secondary school, I remember I have 3 really good friends. And they are all very caring towards me. And when I get bullied, they just had help me out and I could never forget about all the things they have done for me. I appreciate all of friendships so deeply, but sometimes some friends in our life just won't stay despite our effort in trying to maintain that friendship.

There is this one friend that I could never forget in my life. We always have lunch together and basically just discuss about random things together. Those topics that we talk about are just too much to list it here and we could talk for hours. But, everything changes in only a few months time.
The strong bond we have is gone by now and I still don't know the reason behind this even until today.

That person no longer talks to me and no matter how hard I try to rekindle the relationships, it won't work out anymore. I just wonder to myself what did I do wrong to deserve to be treated that way? I mean I try to talk to that person and the response I get from that person is like talking to a robot. That person don't even want to help me out when I am facing difficulties in my life. My assumption is that person don't feel that I am genuine enough and I am not a friend to keep around.

Some people like to have the mentality : some friends just approach me because they want me to help them to do some stuffs and if they don't need me, they won't find me. And so they leave those friends and label those friends as fake people. I know there are some people that befriend others solely for benefits. But if a person often seeks for your help, it could probably mean that they trust you more than anybody else for you to be involved.

A way to settle this heartbreaking issue is to have a heart to heart talk with your friends.
Tell them that you are not feeling happy lately and see if they care about you.
True friends care about each other.
Even if you have a cough or sore throat, they are always there, even sometimes it is just a text message reminding you to drink more water.
I have experienced friendship like this. But until today, there is only one friend that treated me that way. If you have friends like this, you are sure a damn lucky person! :)

Don't be sad because you have lost your friends, or even your best friends.
There are many people out there that would like to be your friends and care for you.
We just need to reach out more, not sitting in front of computer more.

Losing your friend don't mean the end of the world even if it might feel that way.
Take it as an opportunity for you to search for new companions in your life.

Pay attention closely, some friends that hang out with you all the time might seem like your great friends, but in actual fact, they are just seeking comfort being around with you and they are afraid of being alone. And that's all. They are not genuinely interested in us.
You will know if someone really cares for you. You don't need anyone to teach you that.

It is sad losing your friends or buddy in your life.
But....
It is a sadder feeling to realize you have wasted your time caring about friends that don't even care about you.

Complimenting others

I felt really great complimenting others, because I always believe if we see good in others, we can see good in ourselves too. A lot of times other people are just a reflection of us.

I have been trying to think positive and learn to appreciate life more and more nowadays. And it is really working. The more I appreciate about things in life, the more amazing I feel about life.

Complimenting others is really helping me to be more positive.

I was once someone who doesn't like to compliment others, because I felt bad if they don't accept the compliment well or they just brush it aside or ignoring me totally. (basically giving me a slap on the face)

But now when I compliment others, I just think about how happy they will feel when they receive my compliments. 

And I don't think too much about how they are going to react. Because that's what I can't control.

I have commented on some instagram accounts or blogs about how I really appreciate the users doing their job of making this beautiful world even more beautiful!! 

And it's an awesome feeling to receive a THANK YOU from a stranger that appreciate my compliment.

If there is no response from the person that you are giving your praises, don't worry or be sad. 

Know that you have did something that brightens up other people days! 

And your presence had made a little difference to this world in a positive way!! 

*make sure that you are complimenting others genuinely though!

I love (part 1)

I love almost everything in life.

I love those people that are super friendly towards others.
Even if it is the first time they have just met you, you treat you like a best friend.

Some of my friends like to classify their friends into different categories and treat each of them differently according to how important they are to them.
I was once someone like that.
But wouldn't it be great to treat everyone like how you will treat your family members/best friend?

Do you have friends who are always smiling and have that positive outlook on life?
How do you feel around them, don't you feel great?(compared to those who love to gossip/complain/blame)
They are like angels walking on this planet.
They help you whenever you need help and they don't ask for anything in return.
They smile to you without any reason and made you feel better when you had a bad day.

ARghhh. I just can't express how much I LOVE those people.
I am trying my best to become one of them.

However, there will be a lot of people pulling positive people down, because they don't like so much positivity. They are already used to living in a world full of negativity but they don't realize.

Some examples:
They criticize people more than they compliment.
They don't like to see others smile for no reason. They say something like what's so funny? Why are you smiling for no reason? I mean do we really need a reason to smile? Why can we spend so much time feeling sad and allow it? And why can't we spend more time smiling and be happy?
People are more trained to feel bad about themselves. Feeling that they need to improve in many different aspect of life. Yeah, it's good to keep improving.
But it's actually the moment when we can approve ourselves and accept your flaws, that we can slowly moving towards changing it. The first step of change is always awareness!
They think that feeling good about themselves is bad. It's not wrong to see the positive qualities in ourselves!

Anyway, train yourselves to have a positive mindset.
Have a positive attitude towards life!
Do it not because of others, but for yourselves.




Being positive can create ripple effect and sooner or later the effect may reflect back towards you and the same goes for the other way round.

Relax.....=D

Ahhh.. Beach is such a fun place to go.
You can go for a swim, build a sandcastle, sunbath or just relax there.

I didn't really know how to relax besides doing some deep breathing techniques, meditation and taking a power nap.

Recently I went for a detox camp and during the camp, I get the chance to go to the beach.
(Some activities are being held there.)
If not, I would stay at home to relax myself.


I didn't know going to the beach can make me feel so good just sitting there and doing nothing.
Looking at the ocean waves.
The wind gently blowing across my face.
It's an amazing feeling that nothing can top that!!!
I don't know how to describe in a bombastic way, but I guess everyone goes to the beach before.

So there is no need to explain, but to remind you guys that :
Beach is such a wonderful gift that nature has offered to us when we need to release our stress.

Now I realize beach will definitely be a place to go if I feel stressed out and need to calm myself down.

BEACH!!You are my hero. haha..

Learning from other people

We can learn so much from all those people around us.

I always like to go out with my friend one by one. I love to speak to them and chat about random stuffs.

Everyone experience life differently since we all perceive the world differently. 

So the stories that they share with me every once in a when I go out with them always inspire me. 

Few thing I realize:

• I realize all of us have fears and all of us are working towards improving our life in as many aspects as possible, but mainly health, relationships, personal development and wealth.
• Everyone likes to have friends to share things with.
• Most people would agree to have a meet up with you if you invite them out.
• Life is fun when you can exchange life experience with your friends.
• Life is fun when you have set a goal and slowly taking baby steps towards it.
• Life is an ongoing process of learning and experience and not a destination to be reached.  
• Some of us want a simple life. Some of us want a wealthy life. Everyone is different and seeking for different purposes in life. It is a fascinating world out there! 
• Etc.

I appreciate all of those friends that are willing to go out with me and talk about random stuffs. 

It's such a great feeling to share life experience together and discussing together about how to make the most out of life.

I seriously couldn't explain the feeling of really hanging out with someone in real life than having a chat in whatever social network. You can see the other person's facial expression and the conversation feels more genuine generally. And you don't need to worry about your messages seen and get ignored by some of your busy friends. 

Go out & share your stories with others or  listen to whatever life stories your friends have to offer. 

You will feel a lot better than staying home and talking to electronic devices.  At the same time, you may even learn something from the other person too, because all of us are good in different areas of life.

And it's the best feeling ever to be with your good friends and enjoying each other's company. 

Being an ectomorph

Although having a slender and skinny body is something a lot of people are aiming towards, but I am totally the opposite.
I am desperately trying to gain weight.

This is me.LOL! 

I always eat a lot and stuff myself almost to the point of death, but my weight will remain the same.
It's quite unfair to see some of my male friends are able to maintain their physique without needing to consume as much as I do. They can be eating half of what I am eating and still won't lose weight.
If I were to stop eating a meal, I would lose a few pounds the next day.

It's very difficult for me to gain weight and to achieve my goal of having a well built muscular body.
For men, having a small frame body is not something to be proud of. So I have been working hard to gain some weight. But I have tried different ways to increase my appetite, but they were of no avail. Although I got some results from eating more calories, but they are not sustainable.
And consider the money I spent on foods. I don't think it is worth it, because I can use those money for other useful purposes.

Recently I stop being obsessed with weight gain to get a larger physique.
I will eat when I want to and stop when I am full. No more stuffing myself like a pig.
At the end of the day, I ask myself what is the point of having a more muscular body if I were to make myself suffer so much along the process of gaining weight?

If we don't see results from our hard work of eating healthy,sufficient hydration and regular exercise, we should not stop because we don't see our body in the way we want.
We should continue on as these are the best things we can do for our body.
In the long run, your body will thank you and you will thank your body too.

Life is beautiful, be positive!

If you read my previous blog posts, you will know that I am having my semester break right now.
It feels so good to unwind myself and relax without needing to stress about studies and assignments.
I am trying to build up my positive momentum during my holiday.

What I did:
I express my gratitude everyday for everything good or bad that has happened.
I learn to look at things in different perspectives.
I try to accept the way that I am including the way that I look or act.
Did some reading on "you can heal your life" by Louise L.Hay.

I am not sure why, but I feel extremely happy and have this realization that everything around me is so wonderful.
The sky, the room that I live in, the people that I meet everyday and how wonderful that I can share my thoughts with others using my blog. Don't you think life is beautiful ?

And by the way, yesterday I don't think any of my friends rejected me, it's me who rejected myself.
Haha it's funny how everything bad that happens can become positive the moment you change your perspective and look at it on the bright side.

Life gets more and more beautiful each day.
Keep the positive momentum going.

Friends rejected invitation

It's a super awful feeling to invite your friends out and almost all of them said no.
Today I was supposed to hang out with 5 of my friends together, but in the end 3 of them said no.
And left one of them is still free to hang out.
However, the plan didn't work out.
The last one person that is free don't have transport for a sudden. Not really sure why, but I think many of them are excuses.
I instantly feel very bad and kinda rejected on some level. I know they are all busy or having their own personal reasons, but they should have arrange another time for us to get along if they really wanted to hang out.

Okay. I am going to accept that I am feeling sad. But I will not allow it to last too long.
After all, I still have myself and I can do all the things that I love.
I was so happy yesterday thinking that today would be a fun day to go out. But it turns out to another day where I can just get myself entertain through Internet or maybe do some reading.

Finals are over. :D holiday starts!

I just finish my final exams today.
Whoo, gonna really enjoy myself for this one month holiday before next semester starts.
I am going to come out with a list that I want to do, so that I can spend my holiday wisely.
I don't want to rot at home! I wanna enjoy life and have fun!

But a few things that I would like do that are already in my mind now are: (Some things listed here are boring to some people, but don't judge me, haha)

1. Half day meditation,
2. Pylometrics/ workout to build up my body
3. Some yoga pose. I am planning to increase my flexibility before I get old and get all stiff up around my joints. Maybe I can grow taller by about 0.3cm if I stretch more often. :P
4. Going out with friends 
5. Karaoke which is a must to release all those post exam stress. 
6. More self improvement to be done
7. Volunteering for any event 
8. Write more interesting blog post 
9. Dance. Turn on some Kpop music and dance like there is no tomorrow.
10. Go jogging or have a walk around the park 
11. Watch some movies like How to train your dragon 2 and X-men. 
12. Watch more YouTube videos to learn how to be a fun person. (ps: I am too serious like every second of my life, need to learn to take life less seriously and have fun)  
13. Read some books. 
14. Go to the beach and build a sandcastle.
15. Learn how to cook. This is the thing that interested me the least, but a man gotta learn how to cook. Because I am sure girls love boys who can be in the kitchen with them.
16. Learn some quotes to allow me to have a more positive mindset about life. 
17. Positive reflection. 
18. Acting. 
19. Sleep early and wake up really early to enjoy the morning sun. 
20. Smile more
21. Love more
22. Endless..

Whenever it is holiday, there is just so much things that I wanted to do.
Anyway the first thing I want to do now is sleep to repay all those sleep debt that I have accumulated during my exam period.
Bye. Goodnight.

I bet whoever that is reading this right now would have better idea of how to spend the holiday in a more enjoyable way.
Erm. Can share some tips with me how you guys spend your holiday?

Happiness, a choice.

I am trying my best not to rely on others for my happiness.
Because
we all are responsible for our own feelings. And we never know who will leave us.
Some people may seem like they will be forever with us. But no one can guarantee "forever"!

Nothing in this world can allow us to be happy, unless we want to.
It is the same with comedy shows. Some people can laugh like crazy and have a good time laughing out loud, others can just show a boring face while watching the comedy.
Happiness as you see it in this example, it is a choice!

I remember how I used to feel sad and I made those around me feel bad too.
They can do nothing for me, because I have chosen to be sad.
It's okay to feel sad since we are human and there can be problems in our life that are hard to deal with. But we need to keep on going, no matter how hard a problems seem to be at that time.
It does get better over time !
And know this, others are not responsible for our sadness.
We may put the blame on others, saying that they ignore us, reject us or scold us.
But here is another quote: "no one can make you feel inferior without your own consent."

The moment we seek happiness by depending on others opinions or companionship, we suffer.
The moment we feel happy within ourselves. It doesn't matter how others treat us anymore.

Do you care how others react to you?

Sometimes we care so much about what others think that it just makes our life less interesting.
We don't say what we want to say just because we think it is stupid or maybe no one will respond to us and we might feel rejected.
It is a really sad feeling to live our life following the norm.
We can actually be doing things differently. Maybe wearing the clothes that you personally think is something a model would wear. Yeah, others might judge you. But that's just because you are living your life. When your life is fascinating, there will be people out there that tries to judge you to make your life less fascinating. They are jealous because deep inside! they want to do the same too.
Seriously,
Don't do this or that because of others doing the same.
I know I might sound like a positive motivational speaker, but it really is important that we know we are all special and unique in our very own way.

We are all beautiful people inside and out and don't let anyone tell you any different.

I saw a post about psychology in Facebook saying that if you get rejected, it is the same feeling as getting hurt physically. I am no scientist or researcher, but search it up, there is evidence and a study done about it.
But despite the fact that it hurts a lot, I think rejection is not something that we should worry about, it is our feelings that we should be caring more about.
So what if we get rejected if we do the things we want?
At least we are happy after we do what we want.

If we go for a job interview for a job that we are very passionate about and we don't get it, so what? Try another one. Maybe there are other job offers that are far better than the one you did not get.

If we talk about a topic of our interest or maybe we think it is a topic that might interest others, but no one bother you. So what?
It is not your problem. It is the person that you are together with. They have the freedom to do whatever they want. It is their choice to choose to respond or not. And we have no power to make them respond the way we want.
And believe me, I don't think there is anyone that is able to create a topic that is interesting enough to attract everyone's attention. We all have different interest.

If we smile to others, they just show us a weird look or ignore us like they didn't even see us.so what?
Just continue to smile to others and ignore those that ignore you. You will eventually find someone that smiles back! And you might make a new friend or something more than that!

At the end of the day, it is your life. Live it the way you like. :)

Exams. Destress?

Sometimes exam can drive people mad.
I am having finals throughout this whole week and another two days next week.
It's 7days long. I am dehydrated, tired, hungry, stressed out because of my brain is working the whole day trying to process and absorb all the information from the lecture notes.
But I must really say thanks to the creator of music. Those soft music helps to release stress by a lot.
And besides listening to music, when I am stressed nowadays, I would try a 5minute meditation just focusing on my breathing, dance for 3minutes, do some stretching exercise such as squatting for maybe 30reps to increase blood circulation to help with my study!!

I know some people would say that it is already so stressful, how on earth can I make time for these stress releasing techniques. I was one of those people.
But now.. Everything has changed, hahaa. I would take 1hour to relax myself even though I have exam the next day. After relaxing, I find that I can study faster.

So next time when you are stressed out, try some relaxation techniques.
What you need is only 5minutes. Any relaxation techniques that suit you.
It can be as simple as doing yoga's corpse pose and totally relax by listening a calm and soft music.
Watching a 5minute YouTube video. Or just try laughter yoga if you don't mind to feel a little silly. :)

good friends. ;)

You know you got yourself a best friend when you feel happy with that person and you don't need to talk too often with that person and still feel the connection.

I am really grateful that I found myself a few good friends.
Time will prove everything, including relationship and friendships.
Some friends can get bored of you, don't find any value from being your friend and leave you to find new friends.

But best friends are those that can get bored of each others and can still feel happy being around with each other.
They may leave you for a while. And they will come back sooner or later to ask how have you been.

No words are needed. Just a facial eexpression or some eye contact. N you know what the other person is thinking about. That's how best friends or maybe couples communicate.

I once was very concerned about not having a lot of friends.
However, I think a few good friends that really care for you are better than having a lot of friends that are just being with you for fun and laughter only.

Likes..

Facebook, instagram are all about the likes.
Almost everyone wants their photos to get as many likes as possible.
And some will even ask their close friends to like their photo. Or using their friends account to like all the photos in Instagram since the day they started Instagram. That's what I do and some of my friends too. Haha so desperate for likes. :P it's kinda an addiction. Addiction to approval maybe?

Why do we want to earn likes from others?
I know some of us don't care. But some of us still do care to some extent.

Probably because: All of us wants to be accepted, loved, cared and noticed by others. Having someone liking our photos make us feel that way. 

So spread the love today to those around you.
Thumbs up for people who you think deserve it. Or post a comment complimenting the person if you want. In my personal opinion, I would say a lot of you tubers should get more thumbs up, because they have put in a lot of effort in making their awesome videos.
And also thumbs up for the selfie-takers, they have worked hard too in taking & editing their photos.lol!

But anyway the main takeaway message is to see the good and positive qualities of others.
Compliment them. Like them. :D
You will feel good and they will feel good too. Win-win situation!

(Random stuffs: In Instagram, there are people who follows u and hope that you follow back.
And after a few seconds you follow them, they will unfollow you.)
arghhhhhhh. I don't like this kind of people a lot la.

PS: I am not sure what I am writing for this blog post. Anyway just want to update my blog. :X

Rejection :X

Things just don't go well for me nowadays. I just feel that it's tough to be human.
There are so much things that can happen that makes me feel pissed off.
Sometimes
We might ignore someone, but we have no intention to do so
We hurt someone, but we are actually trying to help them(Telling the truth hurts)
We love someone, but they don't love us
We have faith in someone, but they don't deserved to be trusted
We treat someone like our best buddies, but they don't actually care a single bit about us
We care for someone, but we don't get appreciated
We try to be nice to someone, but others think that we have purpose behind what we do
We want to make friends with strangers, but they will give us that weird look

I don't mean to be very negative, but sometimes stuffs like these happen.
Sometimes you are trying to be really positive, but things like what I mentioned above happen.
Anyway, know that you are not alone dealing with all these matters in life.

It's tough to be nice to others at times. Because many people don't appreciate it.
But rejection by others is okay.
Even if people reject you, you are still you. Nothing else changes.
Find someone else that accept you, love you and appreciate you for who you are. And if you have nobody to turn to know that you still have yourself, you don't need to depend on anyone for happiness. Be happy yourself and eventually someone will show up in your life to join your fun.

And one more thing, don't see rejection as a failure like how I used to see it.
Get up and face rejection head-on!
What doesn't  kill you makes you stronger!
If you are someone who workouts, you will know that pain/soreness is essential for muscular growth.
Rejection is also the same thing.
Haha lets treat rejection like a workout. Never get afraid of the pain and stop moving.
Let's grab a towel and go "workout"!
Recommended volume: do 3sets of 1 repetitions per day.
And sooner or later, you will be stronger and able to deal with rejection more easily. Whee~

PS: Keep moving forward. Say cheese. :)

Happy..life?

How I wish I can be happy everyday. Hmm...
I am someone who likes to do a lot of reading on self improvement stuffs.
Yeah, I know I am happy, sad or having any sorts of emotions, it is always because of the thought I am having in my mind. It is not so much about the circumstance and situation in my life.
But I just can't help it to feel unhappy or alone sometimes.
No matter what I do, there is just a feeling of not feeling satisfied of my current life.
I really wish that my life can be wonderful or as colorful as those celebrities or at least those super outgoing guy.
Anyhow, I am doing my best to get satisfied with my life and acknowledge that even though I may not have an awesome life, at least I still have a chance here on earth to experience life.
I can do whatever I love. I can watch YouTube videos. I can sing, I can dance. I can eat tasty foods. Yum. There is so much beautiful things to enjoy.
I have a friend that complains how boring life is. Everyday you need to go through the same routine/ you will die eventually. Ahh. Haha I almost get affected by my friends thoughts. Although these statements are true to a certain degree, I still believe same routine each day will bring different experience.

Let's say we need to study everyday. We can develop 100 different ways to study.
Study with friends, study alone, study with some music, studying while walking around(this is my current method of studying) and lots of other ways like watching YouTube and studying at the same time. Hahaha just saying.

We can be happy every moment if we want to. We just need to change our thoughts.
For me, I sometimes choose to be sad, I personally think it is more fun that way.
What is life to keep experiencing the same emotion. Haha
Accept every emotions that we have towards different things that happen in life.
Be happy, be sad, be angry, be passionate, be lazy, be loving, be crazy!!!!
*Life is awesome!
Create your own life movie: "the awesome ________(your name)"!!
Make sure it is worth watching.* eating popcorn.

The fear

To be honest, I am super conscious about myself in social occasions. 

I am not afraid to say it out here, because I know that I am not alone in this. 

As I have read many self help books out there, I learned tons and tons of techniques to help me cope with this problem. 

I tried some techniques of meditation, visualization, hypnosis, nlp, affirmations and reading quotes.

But at the end of the day, I still feel that the fear, doubt, feeling of insecurity are still there. 

Luckily I have come across a lot of helpful teachers on the Internet. 

The quote I learned from one of "my teacher" : 

overcoming fear is not possible. It will always be there. 

We can only embrace it and take actions anyway. 

I no longer try to overcome it anymore. 

Because 

"The more you resist, the longer time it is going to stay with you. "

Stop trying to overcome the fear. Learn to make it your best friend. 

When your fear becomes best friend with you, you will be unstoppable! 

Take actions, take actions and take actions! :) 

Sometimes you feel that there is this annoying talkative monster inside your head telling you all sort of negative stuffs, but all you have to do is to give the monster a slap on the face by taking some actions.

The monster will shut up for some time once you do the stuffs that you are afraid of. 

But the monster loves to talk about nonsense way too much. 

So it will find any opportunities to talk. 

But fear not, every time the monster shows up and talk to you, give it a huge slap,  megapunch it if necessary and it will go away. 

Although I am writing this post about how to deal with fear, I still have my fears.

You know sometimes it is easy to say, but hard to do it yourself, XD

I am still trying to learn and change as I grow older and older each day. 

Let's gradually improve on a daily basis! Gogogo!

Love random acts like this.

I am always happy to see people treating nicely towards each other.
Just some random greetings, saying thank you and goodbye just warms my heart.
I love seeing people interacting with one another and smile often. (I am someone who smiles almost twenty four hours a day. That's how much I love to smile. xD)

Today

Someone gave me two packets of food flavorings for free without asking me to return any favor.
So happy. :D small acts of kindness like this just made my day a lot happier.
I love people who treat others nicely without any intention.
I have always wanting to be treating others the same way too. But sometimes when I offer help to people, they don't seem to appreciate it that much and I have the feeling I am being good to people who don't want me to be treating them that way.

Lol anyways, do random acts of kindness today. Be it a smile or just giving someone a compliment.
It helps to brighten up people's day and yours too. :)

My laptop spoiled. :(

Okay, I am going to announce some bad news here.
I don't think I will be able to blog with pictures for some time due to my computer going haywire.
When I switch on my laptop, the display just goes black and doesn't show anything on the screen.

So I try finding tips on YouTube or google.
I tried a technique that works for most people. I unplug my computer and just press the power button for 60seconds, and plug the power supply in and try switching on again, but it doesn't seem to help.

The comments in YouTube suggested that I should do it three times using the technique above.
They say third time usually works as a charm.

Haih. I tried for about 6times, my computer gets even worse in the end. Haha sometimes doing things excessively doesn't seem to be a good thing.
At first, I can see the screen for a few seconds, then black screen appears. And then few seconds later, I see the screen again, and then poof, black screen again. My computer is getting naughty nowadays. Playing this kind of trick with me. Lol!
This is the first time I face this kind of problem with my computer. :X


Hopefully I will find out what problem is going on with my laptop
Btw, I am updating with my iPad in case you are wondering how do I update this post.

Drinking a cup of chocolate.

woooo. Latte. (xoxo)

Sometimes I think chocolate and milo are twins.=P

Hot chocolate is the beverage I usually order when I go to some coffee shops like starbucks.
Sometimes although the taste of chocolate is quite similar to milo, but I still prefer chocolate.
Drinking a cup of hot chocolate always make me happy for the rest of the day! =P

Due to my great thirst, I drank almost 5/6 of the cup in roughly about 30 seconds once I get my drink.
My friends was so shocked that they raised their voice and told me that I should drink it slowly and enjoy every sip of it. WHY DRINK SO QUICKLY??
I felt like as if I have done something wrong.=X
Later, I try to finish the remaining chocolate (1/6 of it) in about 5 minutes.
After drinking the 1/6 of the cup (in a recommend amount of time which an average person would drink), I only come to realize I should slow down in my life and do things slowly and enjoy the progress of it - just like drinking a cup of chocolate.

LOL
Okay, I know this is quite a lame blog post!!! haha but don't care la!

Being nice ?

There are some things that really pissed me off recently.
Sometimes you are just being nice to others,
and others just don't feel the same way & might even say stuffs that hurt you

Eg.
Mr X. got a haircut.
And the next day, Mr.B notices it and said to Mr.X: "did you went for a haircut?"

Then Mr.X replied by isn't this obvious enough? What kind of stupid question it this?






I just couldn't stand those people who respond in this manner.
Why the mad or angry face?It is only a simple question.

Okay, you might be thinking what is the point of asking such questions?
Then I would like to ask what is the point of talking?
If you observe carefully, what we usually chat actually doesn't have much meaning a lot of times.
We just talk for fun and enjoying each other's company.


From the situation above, why Mr.B bothers to ask this question anyway?

Mr.B is showing his interest to whether Mr.X got his haircut the day before.
He gets nothing from the answer. No benefits at all.
He might be creating a topic to talk about and he chose a wrong topic to initiate the conversation.
BUT WHY RESPOND IN AN ANNOYED WAY TO SOMEONE WHO JUST TRYING TO BE NICE AND CARE FOR US??!!!?

There are really people out there who really acted like the example above.
No matter what you say, they will just respond to you in a way that you feel you have said something wrong.
But many times it's not your fault, and I can guarantee that!
I thought I said something wrong when people are mad with me.
It had been months I were reflecting on what I have done wrong to deserve others to treat me this way.

Now I realize that it is their problems. If you were to say the same thing to your close ones, they will definitely not react the way that "those people" reacted.

Sometimes being nice to some people just doesn't worth it at all.

It is not because when you treat them nicely, they don't treat you back the same way.

It is because even when you treated them in the best way that you could, they would still treat you like a piece of trash. 

Treat someone else who you think deserves it with your best!

Sorry for blabbering again.
I really needed to express all of my pent-up anger and frustration due to long time of suppressing it.

Kpop =D

I am a kpop fan. I was very into kpop when I was about 19 years old.
Now I still do listen to kpop songs, but not so crazy like a few years ago.

My favorite group is no other than f(x). There are 5 members in the group.

The reason I love them is because they are unique in their own special way. Their style really appeals to me.
And basically almost all of their songs stands out from many other kpop groups to me.

2ne1, B1A4, Girl's Day and BAP are other groups that I like a lot too.

The only sad thing is all my family members don't really like kpop songs.
The main reason is because they don't understand anything from the song and they feel like they are listening to Indian songs.

So being the only one in the family who likes kpop, it is quite hard at times.
No one to share my bias with. LOL
(Every time when I put on some kpop songs and started singing, someone would ask me to turn it off)

But luckily sometimes my family members are quite understanding, they would allow me to listen to maybe 3 or 4 kpop songs first before they listen to their songs. =D

There are a lot of bad comments people make about kpop.
They comment stuffs like :

- They all look the same. ( Many people have someone that look alike with them too. There are many celebrities that look alike besides korean celebrities.)

- They always dance and sing in all the video. (erm, I thought they are singers/ entertainers/ dancers? What should they do besides this?)

- Their songs keeps repeating with the same phrase/tune/chorus.etc.
(Songs of other languages are quite into repetitive lyrics too, catchy song is fun and easy to sing.)

- I don't understand what they are singing. (Sometimes some songs which are of the language we know, we may not able to understand what the singers are singing too.)

*No matter what language is used in the song lyrics, they are all songs, there is no difference. Enjoy the rhythm and the voice of the singer!

Try to listen to more songs with an open heart and mind even if you don't know the language.
Soon enough, you will have a greater variety of songs to listen to.
(I listen to Indian songs too. No kidding!)

Okay, I am just blabbering today.Because I couldn't retrieve my photos in my phone to update about my experience in ESCAPE. Hopefully I can figure out a way to get those photos into my pc.

Okayy.. Goodnight! 11.30pm Time to sleep!

Bad boys are better?

Girls usually love bad boys. I am not sure why.
Maybe boys look attractive when they are bad and girls look attractive when they are good.
(This is my own stupid theory. haha you can disagree with me.)

Still remember shows like The Powerpuff Girls, Totally Spies and Winx Club?

As a boy, don't you love those girls that are kind and save the world by fighting the villains?
Or is it just me?





Boys are more attractive to girls when they are bad, don't you think so?
Probably because bad guys can help to give a sense of security to the girls when there is any danger.
Bad here doesn't mean bad to the extent of doing something that hurt others.
But bad as in don't usually do what others tell them to do, not doing anything in order to please others and usually don't smile too much.

Some studies have been done:
Many girls generally find men who appear confident with a proud face more attractive than smiling men. They tend to associate males who smile a lot to be more of a feminine side.  

They don't care about how others feel that much compared to nice guys.
That may be the most important reason that girls like them.

I find that through my own experience, no one like to be treated too nicely.
Many of them feel that they are unworthy to be treated that way.
Some people also may get uncomfortable, because they feel the need to do something in return.

Do you like someone who treats you nicely the first day you meet them?
I believe many people will feel bored and eventually don't find that "nodding head to everything" an attractive quality anymore.

Sometimes it is acceptable to be bad!
Because being too good to someone doesn't help to make you more attractive.

Sometimes it is good to say "NO" even to the girl that we like the most.
Pleasing the opposite sex every time is not a good move to make.
It is better to be genuine than be nice. ^^

Don't be a nice guy. Don't be a bad guy.
But  be someone between the two extreme is the best in my personal opinion. A little bit of this and a little bit of that. =D

Random thought

It's 2014 already. I don't think there is many people reading blog nowadays.
Although popular blogger still have some readers constantly checking out their blog, but I don't think there will be anyone who will spend their time to read some blog like this one. My close friend even refuse to take the time to read what I write. How sad. ;X

Nowadays, there is a lot of people using dayre to update their life instead of blogspot.
Some people might do stuffs like vlogging.
But I just love using blogspot and typing out words!
I couldn't forget how excited I was when I was updating my blog a few years ago.
Can't forget those fun time editing my blog.='D

*Sometimes I spend some time to view my old blog: openedheartclosedmouth.blogspot.com
How emotional and silly I was 4/5/6 years ago.

Sadly due to my bad memory, I forgot the password to access to my old blog.
So I was forced to create a new blog. And this blog is actually a SEASON 2. LOL
(That's why my blog name is openedheartclosedmouth2.blogspot.com)

I feel like many assignments/exams will be coming soon and take up most of my free time to update my blog.
Anyway hopefully I will still be able to keep this blog updated almost everyday.
I will do my best to update as frequently as possible! Please stay tuned for more updates!

I screamed like a girl.

This is actually a rat. Don't comment about my drawing please. XDD

What will you do if you see a rat running in front of you?
I ran after seeing a rat rushing into a drain just one meter away from me.
As I run, my friend stopped me and as I turn my head, I saw a creature with green eyes glowing in the dark.
Okay, it is just a cat.
But I think I got a heart attack. (*Demi Lovato - heart attack -> nice song)

I SCREAMED like a girl. Those who are eating nearby turn their head and look at me. EMBARRASSED.
I couldn't control myself not to shout.Luckily no one knows or recognize me.
HAHA So I continued to walk with my friend on the street.
My friend just couldn't stop laughing about my broken high-pitch note. =="

Sunday is the saddest day ever. Because there is not much food to eat around my apartment.
I am an ectomorph. Its damn hard to maintain my weight. I need to eat at least 4 meals a day to not lose my muscle/fat! Thanks to my friend who accompany me to go get some foods to eat. If not, I will be eating some biscuits/breads already.

Went for a counselling session. =D

Some people are actually afraid to go for counselling. Because they don't want to face their problems.

However, the longer we don't face our fears, the bigger they will become. 

And eventually, the fear will get really intense and hard to deal with. So embrace your fear!

Quote of the day

*The purpose of life is to be defeated by greater and greater things. - Rilke

Others don't see the point to go counselling. They feel it is a waste of time. 

But since I have personally try out a few counselling sessions throughout these few years, I must say it is an amazing experience. 

I went for counselling a few days ago. 

I am not really sure what's wrong with me. (maybe there is too much things going on in my mind)

(Sometimes we don't know where and how to start tackling our problems in life.)

Anyway my intention to go for counselling is to get some advice on everything/anything. 

The counselor did a very great job, because I got a lot of valuable advice and felt relaxed after the session. 

I also heard that if you have been suppressing your emotions or rigid in your thinking, you might feel very tired after a counseling session and want to have a nap. Well that is normal. 

Because it means that you are starting to break your negative mental patterns that you have been holding so firmly in your belief. ( I have experienced this too)

During the session, we just had a conversation like a friend. And we learned from each other.

Some photos from the counseling session: 

(Can you understand what I am trying to express through these toys and their arrangement in the sand tray? )

If you have never try before a counselling session, go have a try! 

You won't regret ! (Make sure you find a good counselor though) 

Spontaneous outing to paradigm mall (movies)

My friend told me that divergent is a super GOOD movie. Captain America is great too, but it is just that for Captain America, you are going to have heart attack for almost the entire length of the movie. And for divergent, from what I heard from my friend, a mixture of emotions can be felt.

I personally would vote for Captain America and Divergent as one of best movies for 2014. (Even though I haven't watch Divergent, just by watching the trailer and hearing feedback from my friend, it is definitely going to be worth watching!)

Went out to paradigm mall and watch iceman. But the ending was..... It is a movie about a dynasty warrior that comes into the today's world by some sort of machines that actually preserves them. The warriors are super good in martial arts. Loved the way they 'fly' and fight at the same time. XD

Bought some breads at night because they have reduced all of the bread prices by half. 

The moment when I tried to bite on the bread, it couldn't be teared off by my teeth.

The bread is as hard as a rock. No pun intended.

And we had korean food for dinner. 

Dolsot bimbimbap - one of my favorite food to eat whenever I dine in korean restaurant.  

Flowchart of what happen today:
Class until 11am - did some projects and wait for my friend till 4pm - had korean dinner - watched ice man in paradigm mall - window shopping - bought 2 rock-hard breads home - eat some popcorn offered by my housemate's gf - blog - sleep

After I came back from paradigm mall, I saw two bags stuffed with a lot of chanel stuffs in the living room. And I asked how much did she bought.
She said it is more than RMXXXXX. I am not sure whether she is lying or telling me the truth.
Even if it doesn't cost as much as she said, it sure will cost a fortune.(at least for me)

I am feeling depressed now, because I am not earning any amount of money at all (I am still studying). 

And she already earned so much to buy herself the things she like. 

I will catch up eventually!!! FIGHTING!!

Cant wait to watch this! May 22th!!

My friend collapsed. =(

If you are reading this, I am actually writing this at 12.30am. I want to keep my blog updated everyday. =)

We had a practical session this morning in our school.
And we are told to read the manual before going to class. The lecturer even say it is compulsory, if not don't come to the class.
So I spent 2hours to read the manual, only to find out that no pre-reading is required.
The lecturers just did some demonstration and we just follow what they did.
I am quite angry actually.
I could have use that time reading the manual to do something else.

I really don't like it when the lecturers don't really mean what they say in the class.
They told us about what is covered in the exam and even asked us to focus on some chapters.
They seems so nice to give some guidance on what to study..
Then when you sit for the exam, you only realize you are dead.
The lecturer basically just forget what they say is important & did some FREESTYLE with the exam questions. ARGHHHH.. punching the wall with my fist!
But I still feel glad that there are still some lecturers(maybe one or two) who actually keep their words.

Practical session:
We are required to take some measurements of the body such as height, weight and etc. *Skin fold measurements
I found that I got 13.5% of body fat during the class, is this counted as fat? Hopefully not.
And the most embarrassing moment today was to find out that I am are actually a lot shorter than I think I am.

I was 168 cm before I enter the class, but then somehow I got 164.6 cm as my measurement.
There is something wrong with the measurement equipment or my friends measured wrongly!!!?
I still can't accept the fact that I am that short.
How can a man be so short?

The scariest moment in my life today
I thought I would not see my friend anymore. 

While the lecturer was giving a demonstration of the procedure, my friend collapsed in front of me.
I was completely shocked and have no idea what I could do. I wanted to help, but I am just completely stunned at that moment.
Luckily she was alright after that. She then tell us that she faints because she has a very low blood pressure.
Hope she will take good care of herself and eat more.

Anyway, I really need to start to appreciate my friends more from now onwards. =)



Okay, time for sleep. It's super late and there is a morning class tomorrow. Nights!!

Super random food picture! Why post this?
BECAUSE I LOVE FOOD!

I am HUNGRY all the time.
Urgently need a food buddy that is free 24/7 to hunt food together with me so badly.=/