Complicating small matters. =X

I argued a little with my friend today, because of some small matters. I would say it is an argument, because both of us are not agreeing with each other with certain issues. I am only going to share just a little part of the entire scenario.

Today my friend is having some usual conversation with me like how we usually did through text messages/whatsapp.
After I didn't reply for about 40 minutes (because I was basically busy with my stuffs that I didn't check my phone), I receive messages that totally messed up my mood.

"Why does everyone doesn't know the etiquette of replying a message?"
"GOSH!! where are the smart people with smartphone nowadays"

I felt really angry and sad at the same time reading messages like these. But I am glad that I choose to not use harsh words to reply and continue to talk normally. If not, some bad things are going to happen!

I am feeling angry as I am not someone that can be with my phone 24/7 and I did not ignore the messages on purpose after all. And it is a sadder feeling to get harsh messages from your closed ones. I know sometimes people think that they are close to you, then they can say whatever they want or do whatever they want. But no matter how close a relationship is, I believe it is still important to take care of other people's feeling despite just our own.
(People that are usually closer to you hurt you the most without realization. So true.)

I am not saying in the above scenario who is wrong or who is right.
But I believe there is a better way to express ourselves without being harsh towards others.
I know it is frustrating to send people messages and not getting any response.

But is criticizing/scolding/teasing/hurting others necessary? How can it help with the situation at all?
There is always a better way to say it by expressing ourselves fully but at the same time taking other people's feeling into consideration.
(Eg. I am really frustrated not getting any response from you, can you reply after u see the message?)  or even better ring the person up right away to talk about the stuffs if it is really urgent/important?

Why criticize/scold/tease/hurt others when there is better ways to convey the messages to the other person? I don't get it.

I don't think anyone likes to be yelled or treated poorly! I know sometimes friends may tease each other once in a while, that's fine. But boundaries should be set and not crossed.
No one in this world likes to be teased frequently, not being appreciated and respected.

Anyway there may also be a possibility that I am the sensitive one and my friend probably doesn't mean anything. Who knows? haha simple stuffs yet I make it complicated.

Live life "dangerously"

Living life dangerously does not mean to do all those crazy stuffs like bungee jump, scream without reason in the crowd or doing things that are beyond your ability.

For me, I think that living life dangerously is about taking risk and not worrying too excessively about how things will turn out. I would say I did something that is considered dangerous to me one or week ago.
FYI, my hair looks like a mushroom at that time, so I am ready to go get my hair trimmed/cut.
What is so dangerous just getting a haircut?
Because this time round, my friend is going to give me haircut! And I have no idea how skilled he is.

I was actually quite nervous imagining all worst scenarios.
Despite thinking too much about what may happen, I went for it.
And I couldn't feel much more happier.
Why?
Because previously, I had actually went for 10 different barber shop to get a haircut, but they just wouldn't allow me to have the haircut I want.
But my friend followed my request that day and did what I wanted for my hair.

For me, I think he really gave me a professional haircut.
He gave himself a mark of 7 out of 10 for the end result of my hair, but I score him 8.5 out of 10!

At first, I didn't like it too much, because I am not used to having my hair being styled that way.
I was a little bit nervous going out for the fear of being judged because of my new hairstyle for the first few days.
And yeahh, some of my friends don't really like it and give some bad comments about it.
But there is still one or two friends that compliment my new hairstyle.

I slowly realize that it doesn't really matter anymore.
At the end of the day, people are going to give many different kinds of comments, good or bad. We just can't stop it. Let others express their opinions however they want because everyone is allowed to have their own opinion. And we have no control over what they want to say.

All we can do is to control how we react to the comments from others.  

Nasty comments hurt really bad, but imagine if you can learn how to deal with it, how wonderful your life is going to be ...

Okay back to topic, living life dangerously. How can we do that?
You can maybe try doing these few things below:

• Go for a swim and be comfortable with your own body. 
• Trying out clothes that you like although others say you look odd.
• Grab every opportunities to face your fears. (fear of darkness, height, animals/ anything)
• Go shopping & don't get affected by the shop assistants that may stare at you right in the eyes.
• ___ fill in the blank. You get the idea. 

Just do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable at first will do. (obviously only try something that will benefit you in the long run) (Not something like getting a tattoo, piercing, smoking etc!)

Go out there and live your life DANGEROUSLY.
It is fun to live life "dangerously" once in a while. And it will most definitely make you feel alive again!!